It is with profound sadness that the school community has learned of the tragic death of Jack Pettitt – class of 2016 and older brother of David Pettitt in Transition year. The entire school community would like to offer our condolence to David and to his parents Liam and Julie at this difficult time. Jack is remembered in school as a young man of outstanding character and for his many heroic moments on the hurling and football teams for the college. We would encourage all those who are having difficulties during this tough time to speak out and to look for help if they need it. Please see below for useful contact numbers and extracts from the NEPS guidelines for schools.
GRIEF AFTER SUICIDE OR SUSPECTED SUICIDE – Remember there is no right or wrong way to react when someone you know dies. People will have many different reactions to what has happened. Know that you can survive, even if you feel you can’t. You may feel overwhelmed and frightened by your feelings. This is normal. You’re not going crazy; you are grieving.
You may not feel a strong reaction to what has happened. This is normal. You may experience feelings of guilt, confusion, forgetfulness and anger. Again these feelings are all normal. Feeling low is temporary, suicide is permanent. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. If you are feeling low or having a difficult time, ask for help.
Allow yourself to cry, this will help you to heal. Every person grieves differently and at a different pace. Delay making any big decisions if possible. This is the hardest thing you will ever do. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. You may feel angry at the person who has died, at yourself, at God, at everyone and everything. It is ok to express it. Sometimes people make decisions over which we have no control. It was not your choice. You may never have an answer as to “why” but it is ok to keep asking “why” until you no longer need to ask or you are satisfied with partial answers.
You may feel guilty about what you did or did not do. Suicide is the act of an individual, for which we cannot take responsibility. Healing takes time. Allow yourself the time you need to grieve. Spend time with people who are willing to listen when you need to talk and who also understand your need to be silent. Seek professional help if you feel overwhelmed. If you are thinking of trying to kill yourself, you must talk to a trusted adult. Avoid people who try to tell you what to feel and how to feel it and, in particular, those who think you should “be over it by now”
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